The legendary war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been there from the beginning of time, so it’s not surprising that during the course of your marriage, you may find yourself asking: “Will my mother-in-law tear us apart? Will she hate me with passion? What can I do? What will I do? Will he support her and tell me to go to hell if I say something to her directly?”
You married her son and not her. So initially let her know when she is crossing boundaries. Yet remember, in asserting your rights as a wife, do it with the tact and skills of a diplomat. Do this compassionately and very subtly. Don’t get your husband or her irritated, because only you will suffer. Choose your time very well, when she is in high spirits and have a deep, mother-daughter discussion with her. Least of all remember, you’ve got a mother too and one day, you will also become a mother-in-law.
Unfortunately, some mothers-in-law are actually monsters-in-law, and the moment you open your mouth to voice your concerns, she can immediately become defensive, dooming the conversation instantly. In this case, it’s best to use the third party method to engage her. Your husband may be your first choice to step in, but often times this won’t work because your mother-in-law will immediately feel attacked. You could ask your mother or father-in-law to step in as well, but this too may have devastating effects. Yet a simple call from The Incognito Help Line can do wonders to start a meaningful dialogue. Through this messaging service, your mother in law will receive a personal call telling her anything you want. Yet what makes it different is that it’s coming from someone else, not you, so she won’t immediately become defensive, and might actually think about the message since it didn’t come directly from you. It’s a real win-win situation for everyone that can dramatically change your relationsip. Try it today!
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