First off, you need to make sure you don’t just think she is coming on to you, but rather you know she is. If you are certain, you can you should go to the spouse that is cheating and let them know you are going to give them the chance to ‘fess up but if they don’t, then you will.

Once you decide to say something, you need to bear something in mind. Sometimes in the process we lose a friendship trying to do what’s right. The friendship loss can be the result of your friend not being able to accept the truth so he or she blames the messenger, not the message. When it comes time to rat, sit the guy down, let him know you have serious information and gently explain yourself. If he accuses you of lying, don’t fight it. Your friend will be embarrassed and humiliated and if they find out that you knew before they did, they might feel like you just saw them naked. This can make them act a little crazy for or even retaliate against you. Be honest with yourself and your friend when the time is right but remember, the most important thing is to tell your friend to help them, not hurt them.

On the other hand, telling our friend will likely hurt him in some way. If that’s the case, its far better to use a messaging service  like The Incognito Help Line, that will call and personally deliver the message to your friend, while offering support and advice. By this way, your name will not be mentioned at all and you can be certain they got the message without it being traced back to you at all. The best part is that once the information is passed on, you can be there to support them and help them process what they’ve just been told should they wish to discuss it with you. For more ideas & help visit www.IncognitoHelpLine.com or click here to request a message now. Price starts at just 99¢.