Historically, it has been a fact of biology that while it is relatively difficult for a woman to mistakenly believe that a child is hers, such errors aren’t too difficult for men. Today things have changed however, thanks to modern day science, because paternity can be proven or disproven conclusively with DNA tests. A man can be absolutely sure if a child is his or not – and it’s not a trivial matter. Lest anyone think that there is nothing but misogynistic bigotry behind the concern over accurate claims of paternity, a 1999 study by the American Association of Blood Banks discovered that in 30 percent of 280,000 blood tests performed to determine paternity, the man tested was not actually the biological father of his children.
So how does this happen? A man has to trust that the woman he is with is bearing his child when that is what she tells him, and yet unfortunately, not all women are entirely trustworthy, and even those who are can honestly identify the wrong man as the father of her children. What happens then? More often than not the man has chosen to ignore even the faintest intuitive sense that something is off. Perhaps your neice or nephew resembles their mother’s ex lover? Perhaps the mother makes sneaky comments around you like “I wish someone else were the daddy.” Or maybe your brother sincerely believes that the mother is faithful, meanwhile you and everyone around knows the mother is cheating.
In the event you happened to be a bystander in the later scenario, you definitely need to find a way to suggest to your brother that get a paternity test. Unfortunately this is often easier said than done. What if you’re right about the cheating but wrong about the paternity of the child? What if he refuses to get a test and cuts you and the rest of the family off for accusing their child’s mother of lying? What if you lose mutual friends a result of simply trying to do the right thing or are told you can never see your neice or nephew agin? These are all very real possibilities, but they still shouldn’t stop you from getting your point across. So stop staying silent, let The Incognito Help Line tell your friend to get a DNA test, so don’t have to.
If you’re not familiar with the service, The Incognito Help Line, is an anonymous message provider that will personally call and deliver any message to anyone with the promise that it will never be traced back to you. As the number one professional anonymous messaging service, The Incognito Help Line knows that sometimes its easier to let someone say things for you, (which is why The Incognito Help Line was created- for people & situations just like this). It’s one thing if your brother gets a random phone call or text when they can’t validate where it comes from or if it’s meant to be taken seriously or as a joke. But if they get a personal phone call or letter from The Incognito Help Line, they’ll know the message is serious and isn’t a joke, and it’s that personal touch that makes all the difference.
At the end of the day, people too often love to shoot the messenger instead of just focusing in on the message. Yet remember, while this is not an easy job, it’s a matter of your brother’s life and his kids’ well being. Things only get worse over time, so the sooner something is said, the better. Good luck!